From Failure to Success

Hello peoples, thought I’d share the following post, which I came across during one of my cyber travels.

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When we feel discouraged, we can ask God to help us turn things around. The Bible reveals the causes of spiritual failure and spiritual success.

Source: From Failure to Success

Expectations!

 

MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  If you’d like to join in, please check out this link for further details.

 

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My Thinking Corner

(NB: Lady Cee aims to participate in this blog challenge on alternate Tuesdays)

 

 

 

 

Hello fellow-bloggers and visiting friends, thank you for dropping by.

I’d like to talk to you today about expectations.

My reason for doing so, is because I came across the following passage in a really useful e-book I like to dip into every now and again. It’s written by Jason Harvey—Achieve Anything In Just One Year—and I do recommend it for those looking for inspiration and self-help instruction regarding achieving your dreams.

However, whilst reading it today, I noticed the following statement:

“You can’t predict the future. What you can do is let go of the baggage of your past (so far so good) and move forward without expectations.”

What?!

Now if I don’t have any expectations for my future, where’s the excitement and motivation in pursuing my dreams? What would be the point of pursuing my goals?

I believe it’s the expectation of accomplishment which drives you, which enables you to keep putting your feet forward on that pathway of success, so why is it this experienced life coach is advising his readers to move forward without expectations?

Perhaps the author, sees expectations in a negative light. Certainly when you consult the dictionary it is possible to have good or bad expectations. And I know from my dealings with other people, from scenarios portrayed on TV and cinematic screens that it is possible to have unrealistic expectations.

So, if we are referring to bad, or unrealistic expectations then I totally agree with this author. But why doesn’t he say so? Why has he referred to expectations period?

If I was one of his clients, I would have asked him and I’m sure he would have been able to explain this odd remark.

But since he isn’t here to explain himself, here are my thoughts on why we should have expectations.

  • Expectations (of the positive kind of course) are another way of describing hope.
  • Hope gives you something to look forward to, something to aim at, or strive for.

My dictionary defines ‘expectation’ as a state, or attitude of expecting.

Everyone who sets out on a journey expects to arrive at their destination. You decide where you want to go, you decide how you want to get there and you take the journey.

Of course there may be set-backs. The road may be closed, an unfortunate incident on your route may lengthen the journey. You may have to stop off to eat refreshments, take comfort breaks or replenish fuel.

Whatever, your experiences along the way, you are still hopeful, still expecting to arrive at your destination. And, all being well, sooner or later you do.

As purpose-driven believers, and dream-achievers, my only caution is that our expectations should not be based solely on personal ability to make things happen. Our expectations, our hope should be placed in God.

Going back to Harvey’s statement, we of course do not know what our future holds. However, we know someone who does! Furthermore, he (God) is able to cause all things we may encounter (the good, the bad and the ugly), to work together for our benefit.

My soul, wait silently for God alone,

For my expectation is from Him.

(Psalm 62:5 NKJV)

Life happens!

On our journey towards success, towards fulfilling our destiny, we will undoubtedly face unexpected twists and turns, deviations, even derailment from the path we plan to pursue.

Only our omniscient Father-God, is capable of ensuring we arrive safe and triumphant at our journey’s end. So be expectant dear reader and trust him.

Purpose-driven believers and expectant dream-achievers, I wish you bon voyage!

 

Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

 

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Live the Life of Your Dreams — The Light in the Heart

Be brave enough to live the life of your dreams according to your vision and purpose instead of the expectations and opinions of others. Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

via Live the Life of Your Dreams — The Light in the Heart

 

Hello folks,

I came across the above message – sweet, succinct and my sentiments exactly!

Had to share it with you all. 😃 💖

Have a great weekend!

When “Now” Is the Only Time You Have…

Hello purpose-driven believers, dream achievers and dreaming wannabe’s, I read a post today that touched my heart. I re-blog it below.

As this dear blogger says, I believe there may be many amongst this readership who can relate to her message in some way.

• Perhaps you are afraid to follow your dream
• Perhaps you have helped others achieve their dream whilst yours languishes in the dust
• Perhaps your faith in God has been undermined in some way
• Perhaps things you had prayed for, or expected to happen, just did not materialise
• Perhaps, Perhaps, Perhaps!

I know for myself, I can relate to some of this blogger’s experiences.

I’ve voluntarily written for, edited and proof-read material, as well as prayed on behalf of others. They’ve gone on to achieve what they set out to do. Launched ministries. Passed exams. Published books. Produced magazine issues. Got results.

And then I realised that whilst I was helping others to achieve their dreams and fulfil their goals, my own lay dormant—visible only upon the pages of my Dream notebook, alive only in the deep recesses of my heart.

And so I had to start learning to say “no”. A difficult thing to do if you are someone like me. But then when I started saying “no” in order to get going with my own goals, and pursue my own dreams, all sorts of obstacles reared up in my pathway, the chief obstacle being myself!

Is there anyone out there who needs to let go of excuses and fear, and follow the path of faith and hope towards their destiny?

Is there anyone out there who needs to examine your life and see what is hindering you from pursuing your purpose, from accomplishing your dreams?

If so, I hope the following post will inspire you.

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Eyes Straight Ahead

“Now” and “Today” and “In this moment” are times I have not historically been known for enjoying much. I am a dreamer, a planner, a person who enjoys living months out. I like to know what is coming and do not enjoy being surprised with last-minute plans or lateness. I like to be 15 minutes early to events and meetings. I hate waiting. And I am not a fan of not planning things – in fact, I plan my spontaneous time.

I realized yesterday the reason I don’t enjoy “now”, “today”, and “in this moment” is because in those times, I realize that I am not fulfilling my potential. I am sitting on talent and dreams and gifts that go unused. In fact, I have been looking for a new job for more than a year and yet I still haven’t found one because my idea of looking for a…

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Misconceptions about Success (1)

 

 

Author/entrepreneur Seth Godin says: ‘We need to stop shopping for lightning bolts. You don’t win an Olympic medal with a few weeks of intensive training. There’s no such thing as an overnight opera sensation. Great companies [and great churches] and here let me add great relationships, don’t spring up overnight. . . every great thing has been built in exactly the same way: bit by bit, step by step, little by little.’

There are no shortcuts; you must be willing to pay the price.

(From: UCB Word For Today – February-April 2017 – written by Bob & Debby Gass)

 

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Purpose-driven believers and dream achievers, I wish you a blessed, productive and successful week!

Subscribe to Your Successful Self

 

MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  If you’d like to join in, please check out this link for further details.

 

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My Thinking Corner

(NB: Lady Cee aims to participate in this blog challenge on alternate Tuesdays)

 

In today’s session, I’d like to look at what Dorothy Rowe, a leading psychologist, refers to as the ‘Successful Self’.

The blurb on her book of the same title, begins as follows:

Is it possible to be truly successful as a person? Or must we, as most of us do, continue to live our lives feeling in some way trapped and oppressed, frustrated, irritable, haunted by worries and regrets, creating misery for ourselves and others?

Today, I will be sharing several statements made within Rowe’s book, which I hope will provide food for thought, encourage self-evaluation and inspire self-improvement.

  • Real success, that success which does not turn eventually into emptiness and lonely bitterness, is based upon the creation of the Successful Self. Such a creation is possible for all of us.

 

  • A Successful Self is not a state of being which once achieved is ours forever. It is always a mode of being and becoming, a journey of continual discovery.

 

  • The Successful Self feels valuable, self-accepting and self-confident.

 

  • Success makes our self-confidence expand. Failure makes our self-confidence shrivel.

 

  • The Successful Self has created a life story without the gaps and inconsistencies which inhibit and cripple, and which goes forward in courage and hope.

 

I have deliberately not elaborated on the above statements because my aim today is for you dear reader to do the thinking, to consider the above statements in relation to your own life, to decide whether you agree or disagree, to explore Rowe’s rationale further if need be and determine how you will use the above information.

Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

 

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Dorothy Rowe’s book may be purchased at Amazon (follow the link):

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Trust God. Believe His Word. Encourage Self.

REFLECTIONS FROM MY READING

 

 

 If God implants His desires in our heart, then He will see to it that they are completed as we submit to His Lordship and work in co-operation with His Spirit within us.

Edwin Louis Cole – The Potential Principle – Living Life To Its Maximum

 

For the past 2-3 years I have been beset with fears that I might die before I complete a project I began. Recently those thoughts have visited me almost daily and I have to tussle to oust them from my mind and prevent them from taking root in my heart.

I have been in about 4 car accidents which could have cost both me and my husband our lives. Accidents where the cars were a write-off. Accidents where I still do not know to this day how we avoided a full-on collision, how we avoided careering off into the path of oncoming cars on the motorway. Only the fact that I

(a) serve a mighty, miracle-working God

and

(b) regularly ask the Lord to divinely protect me, and my husband and my loved ones, in accordance with Psalm 91,

can explain why I escaped terrible injuries, or have not already lost my life.

The above factors, plus other incidences in my life where I know, that I know, that I know, God graciously intervened and delivered me, healed me, are the reasons why every now and again the tentacles of fear seek to asphyxiate me.

During the days when I didn’t know better, whenever fearful thoughts came, I’d try to squash them down or ignore them. Sometimes I even voiced them. Which is the worst thing you can do. Because the Enemy does not and will not give up!

And so those thoughts need to be taken captive. They need to be imprisoned within the walls of faith. They need to be displaced and replaced by the Word of God. And it is necessary to apply this strategy again and again and again and again, as often as needed until you are free. Completely free. Until God’s thoughts (as revealed in his Word) become second nature.

Today, I read the above passage from Ed Cole’s book and it has encouraged me. I believe God has planted certain dreams in my heart. Some of those dreams I would never have considered for myself. And some of those dreams would take only God himself to make them become a reality.

I’m choosing to believe God’s servant Ed Cole and what he has written. I’m choosing to resist the lies of the Enemy. I’m choosing to discipline my fleshly inclinations (to sulk, to be slothful, to bathe in self-pity, or to self-flagellate over missed opportunities and past shortcomings) and submit to Christ’s Lordship and co-operate with His Holy Spirit.

That doesn’t mean the fears won’t come back. That doesn’t mean I won’t be tempted to go off on a tangent and try to do things my way because God’s just not working fast enough (remember Abraham and Sarah?).

But praise God, it does mean that He can (and will) cause ALL things to work together for my good, for my benefit, for my success.

Dear reader, if God has given you a dream which is taking forever to take shape and become a reality, or if you are facing obstacles to that dream left, right and centre, trust God to give you that breakthrough. Trust God to carry you through the storms of opposition, persecution, sabotage or failure. Trust God for whatever it is that is pertinent to your situation.

Trust God. Believe His Word. Encourage self.

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Are You Living it LARGE?

 

LIFE!

Life is not easy!

I doubt there is anyone reading these words who will deny this. It’s a phrase I recall my father using quite a lot whilst I was growing up as a child. In fact, I wrote a post on my other blog: Women of Warfare!, about how I came to the very same conclusion once I’d grown up, which you may like to read – (Five-Minute-Fri: Easy).

 LIFE!

 It has its highs and lows, swings and roundabouts, ups and downs. Sometimes life evokes feelings of euphoria and at other times the feeling of “this is the pits!”

LIFE!

We can either enjoy it or endure it. We can either live it and love it, or bitch about it.

LIFE.

I want to live life with CAPITAL letters. I want to enjoy the abundant life that God says I can have. . . that Jesus died for me to experience. I want to live a purpose-driven life.

How about you?

 

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It Matters

Hello dear readers,

As many of you are aware, my heart’s desire is to encourage you to live our best life as a purpose-driven believer. When I read this post fragments of a song came to mind however I cannot recall all the words, or even how it begins. The words are: ‘It’s not about me Jesus. . . ‘

This is a long post but well worth reading to the end, so I encourage you to do so.

Have a blessed weekend!

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It MattersColossians 3:1-3 (NLT) Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand. Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God. And when Christ, who is your life, is revealed to the whole world, you will share in all his glory.

I used to work with someone who professed vehemently to be a Christian. In theory, the confession was absolutely true. This person would tell others that God was in control… which He is. Serving in church attending all the services and sharing the experience. Feeding the soul with the Word and good teachers – conversationally this person was living the life. However, at work this person was not a…

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The ‘S’ Word

 

MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  If you’d like to join in, please check out this link for further details.

 

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My Thinking Corner

(NB: Lady Cee aims to participate in this blog challenge on alternate Tuesdays)

 

 

Today, I’d like to focus our thoughts on the concept of SURRENDER.

Whenever I think of this word two images spring to mind.

 

  • A wrestling match where one wrestler has the upper hand and is mean, standing (even jumping) without mercy upon an area of his opponent’s anatomy and causing pain until said opponent cries out or signals “I surrender!”

 

  • A war situation where the battle is one-sided and a member of the losing side runs out hands in the air, or waving a white flag signalling complete surrender.

 

In today’s culture no one wants to surrender to another person. It speaks of weakness, or categorises us as losers and in some situations, it can even make us the victim.

However, the SURRENDER I wish to focus on today relates to our relationship with God, as purpose-driven believers and achievers. It is a surrender made because of love, not through fear. It is a surrender that completes us as children of God, rather than diminishes us as human beings.

The following are some thoughts gleaned from Rick Warren’s book, The Purpose Driven Life.

Everybody eventually surrenders to something or to someone. If not to God, you will surrender to the opinions or expectations of others, to money, to resentment, to fear, or to your own pride, lusts or ego.

Rick Warren

 

So let’s turn now and examine this concept – what does surrender to our Father-God look like?

Trust:

Trust is an essential ingredient to surrender. You won’t surrender to God unless you trust him, but you can’t trust him until you know him better.

Rick Warren

How well do you know God? Are you seeking to know him better?

 

Understanding

Do you understand what true surrender is?

It is not passive resignation, an attitude of fatalism, or an excuse for being lazy.

It is not becoming a doormat or exhibiting cowardly behaviour.

It is not forsaking rational thinking.

 

Godly surrender is:

Our heartfelt response to God’s unconditional love and mercy.

Our sacrificial dedication of our lives in wholehearted worship and spiritual service.

Our yielding complete control of our lives into his care.

 

Warren tells us in no uncertain terms that:

…surrendering is never just a one-time event… There is a moment of surrender, and there is the practice of surrender, which is moment by moment and lifelong.

 

For Further Thought:

…the greatest hindrance to God’s blessing in your life is not others, it is yourself—your self-will, stubborn pride, and personal ambition. You cannot fulfil God’s purposes for your life while focusing on your own plans.

(Rick Warren)

Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

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My sincere thanks in anticipation!

 

Whoo Hoo Wednesday!

 

I’m giving thanks today to my Father God, my precious Lord Jesus and my creative director and associate, the inimitable Holy Spirit.

Why am I thanking this divine trio?

Because today is another day in my writing history where I have cause to flag up some new achievements. I give my thanks and the glory to this awesome holy trinity, because I consider them to be indispensable members of my success team.

And now for the reason for my joy and for this post.

Recently I’ve felt a little discouraged because

  • Blog growth is slow.
  • Blog interaction is erratic.
  • And a recent attempt to rally interest in my first blog challenge event has so far met with zilch response.

But this morning after discovering certain email in my inbox from three individuals, I felt over the moon.

The first was from a blogger friend Kato, a dear and humble minister of the Lord, who was asking whether I’d mind him sharing my post Pick up Your Cross on his site. He deemed it an important message. Would I? I felt both touched and honoured and of course I granted permission. Please check out his blog. Some of you may recall that I’d recently reblogged one of his posts regarding discovering our life’s purpose.

The second cause of joy came from the editor of a Christian women’s magazine. A guest post, Love’s Sacrificial Mind-set, has been published in this beautiful magazine, Ruby for Women. Further, my article has been featured on the main page of the RUBY community website  and on the Ruby blog.

Dear reader, even if you have read this particular post before, please check out the magazine. And you writers out there if you’re interested in contributing an article, poem, photograph or other artwork, please check out the submission guidelines. The site also hosts a Christian Community, so why not check this out also?

And the third cause of joy came from an editor of a literary blog, which I highly recommend. An article I’d submitted was published on Monday. I’d be so grateful if you’d kindly go along and visit and support me with your likes and comments. Here’s the link.

Unbeknown to me, whilst I was feeling low, these three emails have been sitting in my inbox since Monday. And so I declare today as Whoo Hoo Wednesday! May there be many more whoo hoo days to come, for me, my lovely followers, readers and supporters, the editors of Two Drops of Ink and Ruby for Women and also dear Kato.

Whoo hoo! I’m a writer – yay!

Whoo hoo! I’m a published writer – double yay!

 

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Use Your Kindness Kit!

 

Every one of us has a ‘kindness kit’ we carry with us everywhere we go. It’s better known as our tongue. Never underestimate the power of one kind word.

(From: UCB Word For Today – February-April 2017 – written by Bob & Debby Gass)

 

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Purpose-driven believers and dream achievers, I wish you an abundantly blessed and productive week!

Are You Committed?

 

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY (1st Monday of each month)

Sharing and Savouring Secrets of Success…

Unlock your SUCCESS!

 

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THEME WORD:

            CHANGE

  • To make or become different
  • To substitute one thing for another
  • To remove and replace with something different
  • A variation from one’s regular habit
  • To alter gear
  • To adopt a different intention or opinion (Chambers 21st Century Dictionary)

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In a recent post I sought to encourage people to be the change, i.e. a positive force for good, in the lives of others around them.

However, we cannot be for others, what we are not for our own selves. In my own life, I realised I had to change – change my thoughts, change my attitudes, change my conduct.

If we have not achieved success doing the same old things we’ve done in the past, guess what? We have to change!

Whether we desire success in our business, career, relationships, or other goals, I can guarantee that nine times out of ten, some kind of change needs to happen in our lives. And a change of habit, a change of outlook, a change of any kind requires commitment.

How committed are you to making that necessary change?

Below is a 4mins video that I hope inspires you – not only today whilst you are reading this post but whenever you require a boost. In fact, let me encourage you to keep some kind of motivational portfolio that you can turn to during times of defeat, despair or discouragement.

 

 

Whoo Hoo! Make way for the change-makers, the destiny-pursuers and the dream-achievers!

 

SELF-SCRUTINY

What changes will you commit to making, in order to be ‘the change’ in your circle of influence?

 

How Are You Using Your Gift of Imagination?

You will always move in the direction of your strongest and most dominant thought.

 

One of the most beautiful gifts God has given you is your mind. There are two major functions of your mind. One is your memory, the other is your imagination. Both are God-given gifts that can help or hurt you. Your memory will photograph, file and replay pictures of your past. Your imagination, on the other hand, creates and preplays pictures of things you want to happen in your future.

Dream Seeds – Mike Murdock

 

SELF-SCRUTINY

Where are your thoughts focused – in the past, or towards the future?

 

Purpose-driven believers and dream achievers – enjoy an abundantly blessed and productive week!

 

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Love’s Sacrificial MindSet

Hello Blogger friends and visitors,

I hope you won’t mind if I indulge in a little self-promotion.
Out of the blue I received an invitation to write a guest blog post for ‘StylishlyInspired’ and this has been published today.
Do go along and visit her site and support me with your comments and likes (if so inclined).
Thanking you in anticipation!

Best wishes,

Carol

“…If you love what you are doing, you will be successful” – Albert Schweitzer
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Stylishly Inspired

By Carol Hind 

carol (2)I am honoured to have been asked to write this guest post. It’s been a long-held desire of mine that God use my writing to speak into the lives of His people, particularly women in the Body of Christ, so when the invitation was given, I immediately asked the Lord what he wanted me to say. Out of the blue, a story came to mind. I’d not read it for a while and hadn’t really considered it to be particularly inspiring, so God’s prompting took me by surprise.

I therefore trust this post will provoke you and speak to you wherever you are at in your relationship with the Lord. I pray it will not just be another post that you read (hopefully enjoy) and then forget—but that it will challenge, even change you.

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A Disturbing Narrative

There’s a story in the Bible, which…

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Don’t Despair – Prepare for Setbacks!

 

MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  If you’d like to join in, please check out this link for further details.

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 My Thinking Corner

(NB: Lady Cee aims to participate in this blog challenge on alternate Tuesdays)

 

 

Today I’d like to focus our thoughts on COURAGE.

Whenever I think about this word I think of it in the context of bravery. The hero who battles all odds in order to win his girl, conquer his enemy, or face his fears. I think of men like Hercules or Kunta Kinte, in Roots.

So I was surprised when I consulted my dictionary to learn of another meaning:

cheerfulness or resolution in coping with setbacks (Chambers 21st Century Dictionary).

As purpose-driven believers, we need to develop both a courageous spirit and a joyful attitude that enables us to get up when we are knocked down, or to press on despite discouragement.

With the above definition in mind, here are a few quotes on which to meditate. Since setbacks are an inevitable part of life, it makes sense to have a strategy for dealing with them. Hopefully, the next time we cross paths with adversity, disappointment or seemingly unsurmountable obstacles, we’ll be better prepared to cope with them.

 

Turn Your Setbacks into Stepping Stones!

 

All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.

Earl Nightingale

 

Be of good courage,

And He shall strengthen your heart,

All you who hope in the Lord.

(Psalm 31:24 NKJV)

 

Live the Life of Your Dreams

When you start living the life of your dreams, there will always be obstacles, doubters, mistakes and setbacks along the way. But with hard work, perseverance and self-belief there is no limit to what you can achieve.

Roy T. Bennett

 

Sorrow and strife comes to all persons. Mature people expect hardships and setbacks and patiently and determinedly work to accomplish their goals. Immature people lash out in anger and frustration when circumstances conspire to blunt their short-term objectives.

Kilroy J. Oldster

 

You know, everybody has setbacks in their life, and everybody falls short of whatever goals they might set for themselves. That’s part of living and coming to terms with who you are as a person.

Hillary Clinton

Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

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How do you normally deal with setbacks? Has this post challenged you to think and behave differently? Please share your response in the comment box below.  I look forward to hearing from you. 🙂

 

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Focus, Focus, Focus!

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY (1st Monday of each month)

Sharing and Savouring Secrets of Success…

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THEME WORD: FOCUS

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Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Focus on your character, not your reputation. Focus on your blessings, not your misfortunes.

Roy T. Bennett

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To conquer frustration, one must remain intensely focused on the outcome, not the obstacles.

T.F. Hodge

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You can do anything as long as you have the passion, the drive, the focus, and the support.

Sabrina Bryan

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I don’t focus on what I’m up against. I focus on my goals and I try to ignore the rest.

Venus Williams

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When you focus on being a blessing, God makes sure that you are always blessed in abundance.

Joel Osteen

 

The following is a short motivational video encouraging us to focus on our dreams.

 

SELF-SCRUTINY:

When it comes to following your dreams and pursuing your goals, have you  allowed your focus to be broken?

 

Purpose-driven believers and dream-achievers – Have a blessed and focused week!

 

Are you Wearing God’s Crown of Success?

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In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your efforts with success.

(Proverbs 3:6 – The Living Bible)

 

SELF-SCRUTINY

Is God’s word and will a priority in your life?

 

Purpose-driven believers and dream achievers have an abundantly blessed and productive week and may your efforts be crowned with success.

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Enjoy the Gift of Life

My Thinking Corner

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MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  If you’d like to join in, please check out this link for further details.

Today my thoughts are on the subject of LIFE. I’ve heard it said that life is a gift. If that is the case (and I believe it is so) then the onus is upon us to unwrap it and enjoy it.

How can we make the most of this precious but transient gift, with which God has blessed us?

Here are my thoughts on how we can enjoy an abundant, satisfying life which glorifies our gracious Giver.

  • Don’t just make a living – make a life! (i.e. a meaningful, productive, God-honouring and successful life).
  • The four key ingredients of a successful life are:
  1. Love – unconditional love (for God, self and others)
  2. An indomitable spirit (develop a refuse-to-give-in mindset)
  3. Faith (in God)
  4. Enthusiasm.
  • Be a giver. A constant ‘taker’ in life becomes fat with egotism, ingratitude and selfishness. As a giver (of your encouragement to others, love, kindness, time and resources), your generosity will reap dividends.

As the Bible promises:

Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.

Luke 6:38 (NKJ)

Thoughts are free from toll

(William Camden)

What are your thoughts? Do you have a favourite quote regarding life? Why not share it in the comment box below.

Purpose-driven believers and dream-achievers, have a blessed and productive week!

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Let Go of Past Regrets!

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Regret is a waste of time, unless it teaches you wisdom and fuels your resolve to do better next time.

Bob and Debbie Gass – UCB Word For Today ­ (Daily Devotional – Aug-Oct 2016)

 

SELF-SCRUTINY:

If past regrets are preventing you from moving on in your life, these useful tips from an expert, may assist.

 

Daily Motivation is a Daily Decision

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MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY (1st Monday of each month)

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THEME WORD: MOTIVATION 

Motivation in its very early stages is an act of discipline and you will find it will need to become more and more a part of your personality.

Peter J. Daniels –  author of: How to be MOTIVATED all the time

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The above author, Peter J. Daniels, came from a broken home and a background of poverty. Despite suffering bankruptcy in business three times, he is a millionaire land developer, a top motivational speaker in Australia attracting international demand, and a campaigner for Christ. As such, I believe he has invaluable advice for us as aspiring dream achievers and purpose-driven believers.

If we are interested in achieving ongoing success in our personal lives then you and I will need to develop and maintain those habits which keep us motivated all the time.

To this end, Daniels challenges readers with the following words. He says:

Move up to a level of living and achieving by becoming highly motivated. Recognise that motivation is deeply personal and that it can only be achieved by making it a daily part of your existence.

Daniels further goes on to say that motivation cannot be permanently imposed from without but must be permanently created within.

In other words, although we can become temporarily motivated by inspirational quotes, or motivational stories and videos, permanent motivation has to come from an inner drive and become a daily discipline. Which brings us back to the thoughts expressed in my theme quote above.

So dear follower and visitor, in order to maintain a motivated mindset, are you willing (if necessary), to change your perspective, your habits, your lifestyle?

 

SELF SCRUTINY:

Do you know what motivates you? Have you discovered what it is that propels you to act… what it is that drives you towards your end goal? How are you able to sustain that drive?

Purpose-driven achievers and believers – have a blessed and highly productive week!

 

God’s Unfathomable Mercy

MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  If you’d like to join in, please check out this link for further details. (Unfortunately, Lady Cee only has capacity to participate in this blog challenge on alternate Tuesdays).

 

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My Thinking Corner

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Have you ever been so mistreated that you began to wonder whether somehow you did something to deserve it?

Perhaps the Enemy has pointed to past mistakes or sins in your life and sowed the thought in your mind that you are merely reaping your just deserts. Or perhaps you feel that past peccadilloes do not justify the kind of backlash, which seems to have been unleashed in your life.

Whatever the case may be, can I point out something to you dear reader? To do so, let me take you first to God’s Word, which is (or should be) the ultimate authority in your life.

I refer to that scripture which says:

He (God) has not dealt with us according to our sins,

Nor punished us according to our iniquities.

For as the heavens are high above the earth,

So great is His mercy towards those who fear Him;

As far as the east is from the west,

So far has He removed our transgressions from us.

(Psalm 103:10-12 NKJV)

Next let me share a verse from a poem by Russell Kelfer. It goes like this:

No, that trauma you faced was not easy.

And God wept that it hurt you so;

But it was allowed to shape your heart

So that into His likeness you’d grow.

With the above in mind, I’d like to encourage those to whom the words of this post may apply.

  • Don’t accept the lies of the devil by embracing and dwelling upon them.
  • Don’t allow those who set themselves against you or the circumstances that conspire to defeat you, to rob you of your peace of mind, joie de vivre, or hope for your future.

Purpose-driven believers, revel in God’s grace and mercy. Bask in the sunshine of his unconditional love. And have a blessed and productive week!

 

Knowledge + Application = Wisdom!

 

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My Thinking Corner

(NB: Lady Cee aims to participate in this blog challenge on alternate Tuesdays)

 

We live in an age where information abounds. As bloggers we have a plethora of posts to choose from at the Reader. Bloggers we’ve chosen to follow, showcase their wares and at the click of our mouse we can access their thoughts on a variety of subjects. We have access to their creative endeavours. We have access to the inspirational or motivational quotes they wish to bring to our attention. We have access to valuable life lessons—all posted in a bid to influence, to encourage one another on our journey in life, on the path we tread towards our destiny.

And if we also happen to be members of Facebook, or signed up to Twitter, or any other social media platform, the scenario is repeated again and again.

Advice. Information. Words of wisdom. All for the taking.

Now lately I’ve been thinking about this vast fount of knowledge at our fingertips. And I’ve been asking myself a question: if I retained even a small measure of what I read, if I was regularly applying even one sound principle in my day-to-day experience, how different would my life be?

And so, I challenge you today dear reader to think about all that information you are consuming. Are you learning? Are you putting even one of those precious principles you so passionately endorse into daily practice?

Food for thought, don’t you think?

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Are you applying your knowledge?

 

These words I speak to you are not incidental additions to your life, home-owner improvements to your standard of living. They are foundational words, words to build a life on. If you work these words into your life, you are like a smart carpenter who built his house on solid rock. Rain poured down, the river flooded, a tornado hit—but nothing moved that house. It was fixed to the rock.

Matthew 7:24-25 (The Message)

 

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John Locke

 

Knowledge is power? No. Knowledge on its own is nothing, but the application of useful knowledge, now that is powerful.

Rob Liano

 

No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and application of wise thought that counts.

Bob Proctor

 

Knowledge without application is like a book that is never read.

Christopher Crawford

 

. . . start applying what you are learning. Remember, to learn and not to do is really not to learn. To know and not to do is really not to know.

Stephen R. Covey

 

 

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.

James 1:22 (NKJV)

 

Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

 

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Prodigal or Profitable?

If time be of all things the most precious, wasting time must be the greatest prodigality.

Benjamin Franklin

 

It’s Saturday morning!

This time last year, I was a full-time employee and part-time carer for my beloved mother, who suffered from Alzheimer’s disease. This time last year, on a Saturday morning, I didn’t have the luxury of a whole day to myself, with which I could do exactly as I pleased.

This time last year, I was ruminating with regret over past years and decades, when I’d enjoyed a similar luxury but hardly ever spent my spare time in a meaningful way. How I wished I’d used my time more wisely!

Last year, out of necessity, I had to put my dreams and goals second place.

Purpose-driven believers and aspiring dream-achievers, realise that your spare time, is a precious commodity. You never know what your future holds. Don’t be deceived into thinking you have all the time in the world to achieve your dreams, accomplish your goals, fulfil your destiny. And if you are currently a “free agent”, pretty much able to spend your leisure hours doing as you please, don’t be deceived into thinking that your current situation will remain the same, indefinitely.

Fulfilling goals and dreams, or the destiny God has pre-ordained for you, requires diligence, hard work and the productive use of your time. If you are in the habit of squandering those precious moments, spending an exorbitant amount of time on activities that don’t really matter… that don’t add value to yourself… that don’t take you forward in the direction of your dreams, then you may later regret it (as I did!).

Don’t let slothfulness, procrastination, indecision, fear or folly rob you of the quality time you have available now, which could be spent productively on pursuing your dreams. By the time you wake up, or decide to pursue you dream in earnest, circumstances may have changed. You may find yourself having to juggle unexpected responsibilities and having to squeeze in micro-moments for yourself. Take it from someone who knows. Take it from a procrastination queen!

There are two types of wisdom available to you dear reader. There’s the one you acquire from your own hard-earned experience, and the type you gain from listening to and learning from the hard-won experience of others.

In the context of using your spare time profitably, which type of wisdom will you choose to learn from this year?

Wisdom is the principal thing;

Therefore get wisdom.

And in all your getting, get understanding.

(Proverbs 4:7 NKJ)

Purpose-driven believers and dream-achievers have a blessed and productive week.

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Are you guilty of wasting your spare time, or are you a workaholic?

Did you enjoy reading this post? Please let me know your response in the comment box below. Likes, ratings and shares will be most gratefully received.

Best wishes,

Carol

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3 Tips For Making Successful Life-changes

MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  If you’d like to join in, please check out this link for further details. (Unfortunately, Lady Cee only has capacity to participate in this blog challenge on alternate Tuesdays).

 

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My Thinking Corner

 

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Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

 

It’s a new year and with it comes the promise of new opportunities. With it comes new hope for old dreams and even enthusiasm for new ones. At least that’s how I feel. How about you?

Now I’m aware from talking to others and from articles read on the subject of self-motivation and pursuing personal goals that some people, disheartened by past failures, have given up completely and do not even attempt to make new resolutions, or New Year goals.

If you belong to that category of “no-hopers’ and have laid aside your ambitions, or if like me, you are refusing to give up on your dreams and are choosing to set out on that path of optimism once again, I hope the following thoughts and suggestions will encourage, perhaps even inspire you.

 

1.  EAT MODERATELY

It’s easy when you are feeling excited and self-motivated to try and saturate yourself in as much knowledge as possible. So you buy a book, research appropriate resources online, perhaps seek out a mentor. But this can lead to information overload, to mental and emotional indigestion.

When it comes to making life changes, or pursuing dreams, you will most probably need to seek out information. But in your enthusiasm, or haste to get from A to B quickly, you can overdo it.

Have you ever been unwell, gone on a diet or a fast? Do you remember your stomach shrinking from not eating your customary amount of food? Think of your desire to cram in as much information, as quickly as possible, as being much like you gorging lots of rich food after a period of fasting. It makes you feel uncomfortable, perhaps even sick.

The trick is to consume the information you need in digestible portions. The trick is to make small demands upon yourself. Take small steps daily, rather than trying to make significant changes overnight. Think elephant – the way to eat one is by taking small bites at a time!

 

2.  EXERCISE GENTLY

Have you ever been unfit?

I can recall a time when I suffered from a chronic back problem. Even my normal walking pace was significantly affected. I’d set off down the road and people seemed to zoom past me, even though they weren’t walking particularly fast. School children reluctant to get where they were going and even elderly folk, managed to disappear in the distance, whilst I struggled to put one foot in front of the other. I had to be patient with myself and determined. Thankfully, over time, I regained my fitness.

Pursuing goals, achieving your dreams, requires you to exercise your life-changing muscles regularly. Just as you wouldn’t just pick up a set of heavy weights and try to lift them the first day or week you visit a gym, exercise those life-changing muscles slowly and gently. When it comes to pursuing your dreams, start out with small changes, then increase efforts, once your capacity to deal with more, enlarges.

 

3.  EXCISE RUTHLESSLY

Become your own personal development surgeon.

You know yourself better than anyone else. Which cankerous areas of your life do you need to remove? Cut out those excuses (no time, no money, no skills). Remove time-wasting activities and if need be, sacrifice the odd leisure pursuit in order to make more time for learning, or practising, or working on your project.

Above all, ruthlessly sever wrong thinking! Replace negative thoughts (I can’t do this, I’ll never master that, I’m not intelligent enough), with life-enhancing meditations. Renew your mind with the Word of God. Adopt a pertinent motivational quote as your mantra for a week, a month, even the entire year.

 

Before I close this thinking session, let me leave you with a quote from Carole Gaskell, life-coach and author of Your Pocket Life Coach:

We are all capable of making changes in our lives, the secret is to break things down into SMALL STEPS – tiny steps in fact – and spend a few minutes EVERY DAY taking action. Little and often is one of the fundamental secrets to successful transformation.

 

Purpose-driven believers and aspiring dream-achievers – we can do it! Have a blessed and victorious week.

 

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A Dream Plus Persistence = Success!

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MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY (1st Monday of each month)

Sharing and Savouring Secrets of Success…

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THEME WORD:

PERSISTENT – continuing with determination in spite of discouragement; dogged; tenacious

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Ambition is not enough! Desire is not enough! And wishful thinking will certainly not catapult you into the pathway of success!

I have heard it said that pursuit is the proof of desire. And I know from personal experience that pursuit is not a one-time-effort. It’s not a once-in-a-while activity. Pursuit must be consistent. Your dream, your goal, requires persistence.

The question is: do you and do I have what it takes to cross the finishing line?

The following is a 3.5 mins motivational video, which I trust will encourage and spur you towards the fulfilment of your dreams.

 

 

 

Purpose-driven believers and dream-achievers, may 2017 be your year of achievement and success, as you persist with your endeavours.

 

SELF SCRUTINY:

Is there a dream, goal or vision that you’ve abandoned or neglected because you felt discouraged? Are you willing to try again, to persist until you succeed?

Please share your response to this post in the comment box below.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

Wishing You All A Wonderful New Year!

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As the year comes to a close, it is a time for reflection – a time to release old thoughts and beliefs and forgive old hurts. Whatever has happened in the past year, the New Year brings fresh beginnings. Exciting new experiences and relationships await. Let us be thankful for the blessings of the past and the promise of the future. ― Peggy Toney Horton

 

What do you need in the New Year? You need a dream; your dream needs an action; and your action needs right thinking! Without right thinking, you can have only unrealised dreams! ― Mehmet Murat Ildan

 

We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives…not looking for flaws, but for potential. ― Ellen Goodman

 

Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come,

Whispering ‘it will be happier’. ― Alfred Tennyson

 

Take a leap of faith and begin this wondrous New Year by believing. Believe in yourself. And believe that there is a loving Source – a Sower of Dreams – just waiting to be asked to help you make your dreams come true. – Sarah Ban Breathnach

 

 

My heartfelt thanks to all followers and readers for supporting me with your visits, comments and likes. It has truly been a blessing and an honour to share my thoughts with you. I wish you all God’s very best and look forward to the pleasure of your visits throughout the coming year.

Best wishes,

Carol

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“…If you love what you are doing, you will be successful” – Albert Schweitzer

 

 

What’s In A Name?

BLOG CHALLENGE

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PROMPT 20:   How did you choose your blog’s name?

What’s in a name?

Before we all hit that “create blog” button, we had to come up with a name – something to identify us amongst the millions of other blogs out there.  How did you decide on your blog name?  What did it take for you to finally decide this was the one?

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Another great prompt question from lifewithgraceandbeauty.com on this 30-day blog challenge. I’ve not been able to participate for a few days, so am re-joining participants today.

Those of you who have been following me for a while will be aware that I own two blogs. In addition to this one (A Purpose-driven achiever), I also created Women of Warfare! 

 

Blog 1: Women of Warfare!

I knew what the name of this blog would be before I created it. For a long time, I’d felt a desire to reach out to marginalised, or wounded women and encourage them. As someone who’d endured a perpetual cycle of negative circumstances and despaired of things ever changing for the better, I could relate to those who saw themselves as helpless victims. Yet deep down within me there was a fighter who could not accept that this was to be my lot in life. As a born-again believer, I knew this should not be so. I knew Christ’s cruel death had purchased an abundant and victorious life for me, which I wasn’t experiencing and I didn’t like feeling short-changed!

Now since I’d been a Christian long enough to know that God uses your experiences to strengthen you, so that you in turn can strengthen others, I believed God wanted me to reach out to other women whom Satan had hoodwinked into thinking they could not escape the negative course in which their lives were entrenched.

I realised that deliverance from a victim mind-set requires warfare against the Enemy. I envisaged a group of women who could (and would) turn their lives around through prayer, through spiritual warfare, and whom I knew my Father God wanted to transform from victims into victors—hence the name Women of Warfare!

I particularly liked that the name evoked an image of strong warrior-like women, who would not allow themselves to be brow-beaten and deceived by the Enemy. I also liked that the abbreviated form of this name (WoW!) spoke of admiration, amazement and impressive wonder. I had a vision of an army of women, who not only learn to walk as victorious overcomers but use their prowess as spiritual warriors for the benefit of their family members and loved ones, or any situation that touches their hearts.

 

Blog 2: A Purpose-driven Achiever

This name is a compromise on the name I originally wanted because it (Purpose-driven Woman) and other permutations had already been taken. I went through a couple of name changes before finally settling on this one. I’m so glad now that my original name was not available. I think this one has a positive ring about it. I believe it speaks of both aspiration and accomplishment and I believe it is more in keeping with the type of woman I desire to be.

The name is part inspired by Rick Warren’s book, The Purpose-driven Life, and part a reflection of my desire to glorify God as a purpose-driven believer, whose life is focused, fruitful and successful in terms of pursuing my pre-ordained destiny.

 

Thanksgiving Fatigue?

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Hi Everyone,

Welcome to day 5 of my “thanks-fest”. If you have joined me on all the previous days to date – thank you!  If you have only just joined – where have you been? 🙂

Well, the official Thanksgiving Day is over! I hope you all had a wonderful time with your family and friends.

Perhaps you are now feeling a little sluggish from all that food and drink, and perhaps you are even feeling fatigued with the whole gratitude saga. I hope not. There is only one more day to go of my 6-day “thanks-fest”, so I hope you will bear with me.

I’d just like you to consider one point today.

Have you ever given a gift to someone (maybe a child) and that person had to be cajoled into saying “thank you”. Or have you had someone thank you for something you did, out of a sense of duty or politeness but it lacked sincerity? Not nice is it?

ONE QUESTION:

I wonder how our  Heavenly Father feels when we treat him similarly?

 

ONE VERSE:

Oh, give thanks to the God of heaven, for his lovingkindness continues forever.

(Psalms 136: 26 – The Living Bible)

 

ONE BEAUTIFUL SONG:

 

Best wishes,

Carol

“…If you love what you are doing, you will be successful” – Albert Schweitzer

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Gratitude Determines Your Altitude!

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MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  Please check out her blog and if you’d like to join in – see Jacqueline’s “Thinking Corner” (Tuesday Trickles) for further details.

 

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Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

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As many of you will be gathering with loved ones this week to celebrate thanksgiving, my thoughts turn to the subject of gratitude.

Experts say that having a thankful attitude in life improves our health, enables us to be more resilient when troubles assail us, and can even raise our level of contentment.

Maintaining an attitude of gratitude heightens awareness of, and appreciation for the positive aspects of our lives.

So, instead of succumbing to stress over unfavourable conditions (which will only have a detrimental impact on our emotional and mental well-being), we can choose instead to focus on, and express thanks for, the good things in our lives.

The more we engage with life from a grateful perspective, the more we can enjoy a stable, self-disciplined frame of mind and the happier we will become.

The following are quotes I hope will encourage you to pursue thankfulness as a lifestyle, rather than an occasional or seasonal exercise.

 

Gratitude bestows reverence, allowing us to encounter everyday epiphanies, those transcendent moments of awe that change forever how we experience life and the world.

John Milton

 

“Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your nightly prayer. And let faith be the bridge you build to overcome evil and welcome good.”

Maya Angelou

 

“Be grateful for what you already have while you pursue your goals. If you aren’t grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more.”

Roy T. Bennett

 

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.

William Arthur Ward

 

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.

John F. Kennedy

 

“Forget yesterday – it has already forgotten you. Don’t sweat tomorrow – you haven’t even met. Instead, open your eyes and your heart to a truly precious gift – today.”

Steve Maraboli

 

Hem your blessings with thankfulness so they don’t unravel.

Author Unknown 

 

 

Happy thanksgiving to all those celebrating and to all purpose-driven believers and dream-achievers, have a great week!

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It’s Not About You!

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Effective communication is not about showcasing your wit, or rhetorical prowess. It’s about discerning the needs of your anticipated audience. It’s about speaking to and satisfying their expectations.

(Lady Cee – aka Carol)

 

 

 

Speak to My Heart!

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An effective communicator does not merely speak to your ears but also to your heart… your emotions… your aspirations.  (Lady Cee – aka Carol)

 

 

PERSONAL CHALLENGE:

Have you heard or read something recently that inspired you to ACTION? If so, please share with the PDA community in the comment box below.

 

 

7 Keys for Effective Communication

My Thinking Corner

 

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MY THINKING CORNER aims to share positive thoughts to encourage, inspire and motivate us on our journey in life and towards personal achievement and success.

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge to share snippets of positive thoughts.  Please check out her blog and if you’d like to join in – see Jacqueline’s “Thinking Corner” (Tuesday Trickles) for further details.

 

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“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

(George Bernard Shaw)

 

 

Today, my thoughts turn towards communication and how we, as purpose-driven believers and dream-achievers, can become more effective at communicating with others.

I believe communication is the life-blood of relationships. Customers and retailers, husbands and wives, parents and children, politicians and constituents, all rely on effective communication (the exchange of words and non-verbal clues), to make themselves understood.

Whether the relationships in our life flourish or die, depend upon our communication skills. Show me a relationship where the parties refuse to speak to, or trade insults with one another, and we can pretty much deduce that the said parties are in strife, or are indifferent to one another’s feelings. This type of behaviour amounts to dysfunctional communication. This type of behaviour undermines success.

So how can we improve our communication skills? The following are a few practical tips that I believe will enhance our ability to relate positively with others.

  • Use your words to build—whether bridges, self-esteem, or understanding. Avoid the temptation to exchange insults or putdowns. You not only diminish the person at whom your barbs are aimed but you also diminish yourself.

 

Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble. (Yehuda Berg)

 

  • Be engaged in the moment. Are you listening (both to what is said and what remains unsaid), or merely waiting for the other person to stop talking, so you can have your say? Worst still, do you interrupt someone speaking mid-flow?

 

  • Don’t be habitually competitive. Avoid turning social exchanges into a “well, my circumstances trump yours!” scenario. (I’m sure many of you will know someone whose health issues are always worse than yours, or whose house/car/children are bigger or better than yours).

 

  • Follow known etiquette in each communication context (e.g. observe personal boundaries when speaking face-to-face and don’t use CAPITAL LETTERS within email).

 

  • Be aware that potentially negative signals sent (non-verbally) to your audience, may unintentionally contradict what you say. For example, I recently watched an episode of Come Dine with Me. One of the contestants kept smirking whilst eating a meal prepared by someone he saw as a potential rival. He had already discounted the other competitors.

Everyone around the table noticed it and asked whether he was enjoying his meal, to which he replied that he was. However, the host saw his behaviour as an unspoken and unfavourable comment on her food and, to me the onlooker, the smirks seemed to be a gamesmanship ploy, particularly as the host’s menu was similar to his own.

Again, let me remind you of Tip No. 1. Refrain from sending negative, non-verbal signals to others, as a deliberate put down.

  • Make appropriate eye contact. Neither stare at someone so intently you make them feel uncomfortable, nor on the other hand, give the person with whom you are speaking, the impression that they’re not worthy of your time. Whilst conversing with others, avoid texting or staring at your phone, looking around at what others are doing, or continuing with your duties.

 

  • Be concise in your verbal exchanges, thereby allowing your listener to engage with you in dialogue and ask for more info etc., if they are interested. However, don’t be curt whilst communicating with others. And please don’t commit the cardinal sin of going on and on and on, ad nauseam, because you happen to have a captive audience. In effect, you are saying to your listener(s): in future, avoid this person like the plague!

 

  • Smile. You may give others the wrong impression if your face looks hard and unapproachable, or stern and unfriendly. Also, remember a smile makes your voice sound warm and helpful, when speaking on the telephone.

 

Finally, to my fellow believers, remember God requires us to season our speech with salt (Colossians 4:6) and to keep our lips from speaking with guile (1 Peter 3:10). Furthermore, no matter how articulate, or eloquent we might be, if our communication with others is not expressed with, or motivated by agapē love, then (according to 1 Corinthians 13:1), in the eyes of our Father God, our endeavours are the equivalent of loud, clashing symbols!

 

SELF-SCRUTINY

  • Are you guilty of any communication blunders?
  • If so, which of the above tips will you begin to put into practice this week?

 

Please share your response to this post in the comment box below.  If you enjoyed reading, or considered the above tips to be useful, don’t hesitate to like and share this post with your social media contacts. My thanks in anticipation!

 

Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

 

 

Quit Comparing!

Hello dear readers,

I wrote the following article some years ago, to encourage myself and other wannabe writers. I think the fundamental message of this post can also be applied to newbie bloggers, or to anyone pursuing their dream (whatever that might be), or to those who perhaps feel discouraged during their journey towards achievement.

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All images from Pixabay.com

Very often we view success in much the same manner as a gorgeous gem within a jeweller’s window display. We’re attracted by the lustre of those diamonds, the flashing brilliance of those stones and the fine quality of gold.

rings (Pixabay)We forget these beautiful jewels have been specially crafted. We forget those precious stones and polished metals had a beginning and that if we were to retrace the journey of those glittering jewels back to their origin, we’d see those finished products from a very different perspective.

RubyNecklace(Pixabay)We’d discover that the item nesting alluringly against a rich velvet backdrop and shining so brilliantly with the help of strategically arranged lighting, started out in a place of complete contrast. It started out in the bowels of the earth.

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Once extracted, if you didn’t know what you were looking at you’d maybe throw it away as a valueless lump of rock. You wouldn’t realise it had the potential to be a thing of beauty, something that evokes admiration, even desire of ownership. You wouldn’t appreciate its capacity to bring pleasure.

The journey of an unpublished writer is very much like the above scenario. We ooh and ahh over the creative brilliance of polished writers. We appreciate their carefully crafted words set against the backdrop of an artfully arranged world. Attracted by another author’s style or success, we long to ‘own’ similar achievements.

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However, in our approbation of these works, we often leave a relevant factor out of the equation. Much like our appreciation of a beautiful diamond or sapphire, we forget that this artistic work, these authorial presentations had a fairly insignificant genesis.

Perhaps if we didn’t forget this, we wouldn’t feel despondent, frustrated, or threatened about our own endeavours. Perhaps we’d give ourselves a break, stop mentally flagellating ourselves because we haven’t crafted the ‘perfect’ article, short story or novel.

Perhaps we’d stop dismissing the raw materials mined from the bowels of our creative imagination and instead realise: “Hey! This may not look like much now but given time and patience, it can actually become something of value”.

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And perhaps, instead of constantly comparing the finely crafted pieces of other writers with our freshly mined lumps of untreated ore, we’d start to appreciate, even enjoy our modest beginnings. We’d begin to see our pursuits, not as a path of frustration and defeat, but of learning and adventure.

Fellow writers (I speak to myself as much as to you), let us view our beginnings and efforts with less negativity and more realistic expectations. Let us put our goals, dreams, aspirations and the different paths we take in order to achieve these, into the right context.

SuccessSignpost(GerdAltmann)Let us not fixate on publishing prowess as the ‘be all and end all’ of authorial accomplishment. Let us not be in such a hurry to arrive at ‘Success Street’ that we forget to enjoy the novelty and nature of our quest.

As aspiring writers, bloggers, purpose-driven believers and dream-achievers, let us find encouragement in, and take the following words of Ben Sweetland seriously to heart—Success is a journey, not a destination!

 

Kudos to you dear community!

Social media is not about the exploitation of technology but service to community.

Simon Mainwaring

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Image by Gerd Altmann (Pixabay.com)

 

Dear all,

My sincere thanks to all those who visited, commented, followed and sent messages of support during my absence.

Given that I had not been on the blogging scene long and given my recent 3-month absence, your kind words have touched me.

I am back!

However, circumstances beyond my control mean I cannot maintain my previous blogging schedule. I realise this goes against expert advice but future posts will be uploaded as and when time allows.  Please bear with me.

I count it a real privilege to ‘have your ears’ so to speak and, I trust God will continue to use my writing to encourage, inspire, motivate and provoke my readers. I also hope you will continue to dialogue and engage with me and the PDA community.

Wishing you peace and victory in your lives and ongoing success with your endeavours.

Regards,

Carol (aka Lady Cee)

 

My Thinking Corner…

Every Tuesday, Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha hosts a weekly challenge. The idea is to encourage others by sharing snippets of positive thoughts. For further details check out Jacqueline’s blog.

If you’d like to join in don’t hesitate to visit Jacqueline’s “Thinking Corner” (see side bar section under Inspiration-Motivation) at: https://acookingpotandtwistedtales.com.

Why not take a leaf out of Jacqueline’s book and spend a little time detoxifying your mind?

Be good to yourself! Instead of worrying – spend a few moments meditating (i.e. filling your mind with precious nuggets of life-enhancing thoughts).

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My thinking corner image comes courtesy of: Manfred Antranias Zimmer (Pixabay.com)

 

This week my three snippets focus on FRIENDSHIP.

 

  • It’s been said that “Friends are a gift from God”. Are you a gift to someone? A gift delights, surprises, brings pleasure. A gift is something given. Therefore, give of yourself—your time, your encouragement, your love and support.

 

  • A friend loves at all times (Proverbs 17:17) – so don’t be a “fair-weather” friend!

 

  • Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver, the other gold (source unknown).

 

Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

You Didn’t Come This Far to Only Come This Far

Have you ever felt like giving up on your dream? I know I have.

 

It is all too easy when you’re feeling discouraged, hurt, tired, or uninspired to want to throw in the towel. Or if you face obstacle after obstacle after obstacle, you might wonder whether the prize (the realisation of your dream) is really worth all the effort, the heartache, the pushing through. And, if your efforts do not appear to be appreciated or celebrated, you might wonder whether there is any point in continuing with what you are doing, or are seeking to achieve. Perhaps even, the voices of opposition, of nay-sayers and dream-squashers have infiltrated your mind and thoughts and may even begin to cause you to concur with their opinions!

That’s why it’s vital to have a supportive community around you. It’s important to have people who will speak a positive word into your life. And it can be invaluable, when that key word is spoken at the right time. I read a post this week from a very switched-on young lady, whose words of wisdom belie her years. I just had to reblog this post and I trust it will be a timely word of encouragement and inspiration to many of you.

Purpose-driven believers and dream achievers, I wish you all a blessed and victorious week!

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