Expectations!

 

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Hello fellow-bloggers and visiting friends, thank you for dropping by.

I’d like to talk to you today about expectations.

My reason for doing so, is because I came across the following passage in a really useful e-book I like to dip into every now and again. It’s written by Jason Harvey—Achieve Anything In Just One Year—and I do recommend it for those looking for inspiration and self-help instruction regarding achieving your dreams.

However, whilst reading it today, I noticed the following statement:

“You can’t predict the future. What you can do is let go of the baggage of your past (so far so good) and move forward without expectations.”

What?!

Now if I don’t have any expectations for my future, where’s the excitement and motivation in pursuing my dreams? What would be the point of pursuing my goals?

I believe it’s the expectation of accomplishment which drives you, which enables you to keep putting your feet forward on that pathway of success, so why is it this experienced life coach is advising his readers to move forward without expectations?

Perhaps the author, sees expectations in a negative light. Certainly when you consult the dictionary it is possible to have good or bad expectations. And I know from my dealings with other people, from scenarios portrayed on TV and cinematic screens that it is possible to have unrealistic expectations.

So, if we are referring to bad, or unrealistic expectations then I totally agree with this author. But why doesn’t he say so? Why has he referred to expectations period?

If I was one of his clients, I would have asked him and I’m sure he would have been able to explain this odd remark.

But since he isn’t here to explain himself, here are my thoughts on why we should have expectations.

  • Expectations (of the positive kind of course) are another way of describing hope.
  • Hope gives you something to look forward to, something to aim at, or strive for.

My dictionary defines ‘expectation’ as a state, or attitude of expecting.

Everyone who sets out on a journey expects to arrive at their destination. You decide where you want to go, you decide how you want to get there and you take the journey.

Of course there may be set-backs. The road may be closed, an unfortunate incident on your route may lengthen the journey. You may have to stop off to eat refreshments, take comfort breaks or replenish fuel.

Whatever, your experiences along the way, you are still hopeful, still expecting to arrive at your destination. And, all being well, sooner or later you do.

As purpose-driven believers, and dream-achievers, my only caution is that our expectations should not be based solely on personal ability to make things happen. Our expectations, our hope should be placed in God.

Going back to Harvey’s statement, we of course do not know what our future holds. However, we know someone who does! Furthermore, he (God) is able to cause all things we may encounter (the good, the bad and the ugly), to work together for our benefit.

My soul, wait silently for God alone,

For my expectation is from Him.

(Psalm 62:5 NKJV)

Life happens!

On our journey towards success, towards fulfilling our destiny, we will undoubtedly face unexpected twists and turns, deviations, even derailment from the path we plan to pursue.

Only our omniscient Father-God, is capable of ensuring we arrive safe and triumphant at our journey’s end. So be expectant dear reader and trust him.

Purpose-driven believers and expectant dream-achievers, I wish you bon voyage!

 

Thoughts are free from toll – William Camden

 

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11 thoughts on “Expectations!

  1. I have not read his book but I kinda understand what he means. Also I’ve been studying Buddhism since 2012. At that point in my life I was constantly upset and frustrated when things did not go my way. Ego. I wanted complete control. I felt I could design my life the way I wanted it to be. Not so. Gradually I’ve begun to Let Go of what “should be” and concentrate on ‘what is.’ I’ve had to accept many things especially the physical limitations of growing older. However I had a choice. Either be Happy with the way things are now or continue beating my head against a brick wall. I am choosing the former.

    It may sound odd but I’ve given up expectations. Expectations often bring disappointment and frustration. I had a lot of expectations when I was younger and I was like one of those little dogs that bites and holds on no matter what. Until my life went totally sideways and I found myself in a position where those plans meant nothing. Survival meant more. Gradually as I began to let go life gets better even though it is still a roller coaster. Once admitted to myself that I had no control over various aspects of my life then much of the disappointment and frustration passed. As I enter into my 60s I’m all for a peaceful less stressful life. For me I know life is not a competition. Whatever God has for me will be.

    Yes Be in the Moment. Many years ago I remember my Dad looking at his old Air-force picture and saying out loud, “What happened to that young man in the picture? I did not understand. Now I do. Fast forward to recently when I enacted the same with my old Army photo. What happened to that young woman in the picture? Well she’s gone. Along with her health and resiliency. Most days my body with its challenges tells me what I’m gonna do.

    The woman I am now left behind that long ago youth. And as the Doris Day song goes, Que Sera. Sera. Whatever will be. Will be. The future’s not ours to see. Que Sera. Sera.

    As my Dad used to say, If its meant for you. Then you will receive. It will happen. I remind myself of this daily. Cuts down on agitation. Brings peace. Life itself has more than enough challenges so I strive for peace.

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    1. Hello Dancing Palms,
      Thank you so much for your detailed and transparent comment. And thank you so much for taking the time to share your heart. It is much, much appreciated.
      I am sad to hear that you have given up on expectations but understand how you feel.
      I think most people can say that their life did n

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      1. I think everyone should do what’s best for themselves.
        I just got tired of life being a constant battlefield.
        Calm, peaceful and quiet are better. Anyway at my age I no longer have to prove myself to others.
        I’m Free.

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    2. Sorry dancing palms. I am working on a kindle which is touch-sensitive and the message went before I completed it. I will work on my full response later when I can use my laptop and have better control.
      Meanwhile, thank you once again for taking the time to leave me your detailed and heart-felt response.

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      1. I kinda figured your text got cut off. No worries. I will say this much over the last few weeks even with attending yet another funeral of a co-worker who passed away in her 50s and dealing with other bad news I’ve been able to maintain stability and some happiness.

        Sadness has its place when someone dies, when a man loses his wife and the mother of his children, when a co-worker is dying of cancer but not in dropping expectations.

        There are is so much sadness in this world so why create expectations that will probably result in anxiety, stress and depression. I need to practice being content. Being happy or at least satisfied where I’m at. Not wandering in the wilderness going around in circles. Gradually I’m stepping off the hamster wheel and it feels so good.

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      2. Hello Dancing Palms, I am sorry to hear about your bereavement and agree that grief over the loss of loved ones does not compare with sadness over less devastating issues.
        The main thing is that you are happy. Can’t argue with that. Thanks once again for engaging with me regarding my post.

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